Restricted and Selective Eating in Children

Restricted and Selective Eating in Children

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It’s natural to worry whether your child is getting enough food if they refuse to eat sometimes.However, it’s perfectly normal for toddlers to refuse to eat or even taste new foods.

Do not worry about what your child eats in a day or if they do not eat everything at mealtimes. It’s more helpful to think about what they eat over a week.

If your child is active and gaining weight, and they seem well, then they’re getting enough to eat.

As long as your child eats some food from the 4 main food groups (fruit and vegetables; potatoes, bread, rice, pasta and other starchy carbohydrates; dairy or dairy alternatives; and beans, pulses, fish, eggs, meat and other proteins) you do not need to worry. Find out more about what to feed young children.

Gradually introduce other foods and keep going back to the foods your child did not like before. Children’s tastes change. One day they’ll hate something, but a month later they may love it.

Keep offering a variety of foods – it may take lots of attempts before your child accepts some foods.

Children with fussy or restricted eating may:

  • Eat foods from the different food groups but their choice within the different food groups is limited. For example, they may eat chips and pasta but refuse rice, potatoes and bread.
  • Totally exclude a food group such as refusing fruit and/or vegetables
  • Prefer to eat ‘beige’ coloured foods such as bread, biscuits, chicken nuggets
  • Dislike wet textured food such as Bolognese sauce
  • Prefer to eat cold, snack-type foods and refuse hot meals
  • Eat a meal with a grandparent but refuse to eat the same meal at home
  • Only eat certain brands or from familiar packaging

Tips for parents of fussy eaters

  • Give your child the same food as the rest of the family, but remember not to add salt to your child’s food. Check the food labels of any food product you use to make family meals.
  • The best way for your child to learn to eat and enjoy new foods is to copy you. Try to eat with them as often as you can.
  • Give small portions and praise your child for eating, even if they only eat a little.
  • If your child rejects the food, do not force them to eat it. Just take the food away without saying anything. Try to stay calm, even if it’s very frustrating. Try the food again another time.
  • Do not leave meals until your child is too hungry or tired to eat.
  • Your child may be a slow eater, so be patient.
  • Do not give your child too many snacks between meals – 2 healthy snacks a day is plenty.
  • Do not use food as a reward. Your child may start to think of sweets as nice and vegetables as nasty. Instead, reward them with a trip to the park or promise to play a game with them.
  • Make mealtimes enjoyable and not just about eating. Sit down and chat about other things.
  • If you know any other children of the same age who are good eaters, ask them round for tea. But do not talk too much about how good the other children are.
  • Ask an adult that your child likes and looks up to to eat with you. Sometimes a child will eat for someone else, such as a grandparent, without any fuss.
  • Changing how you serve a food may make it more appealing. For example, your child might refuse cooked carrots but enjoy raw grated carrot.

Vitamins and minerals

The resource section below may be useful for those children who have a restricted diet due to allergy or selective eating. There are many multivitamin and mineral preparations suitable for children available to buy over the counter in supermarkets, pharmacies, health food shops and discount stores. 

Coeliac disease

Coeliac disease requires a lifelong gluten exclusion which includes avoidance of cross contamination. It is essential to establish this through a formal diagnosis and for this to be accurate it is essential gluten is not removed.

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